Friday, February 6, 2009

I was wrong

Here we go. Again with the octuplets.

I was wrong. It wasn't about religion at all. It was clearly a case of medical negligence or incompetence combined with mental illness.

Any medical professionals who were involved in implanting eight embryos into a 33-year-old woman who had successfully carried six children in five previous pregnancies should have their licenses revoked. It is not a matter of how many children she already had. It is the fact that it is a reckless, improper and dangerous act to do with a healthy woman of her age. It is completely against all standards of care established in that field.

If this were a Law and Order episode, Jack McCoy would definitely prosecute the responsible doctors for Attempted Murder using the "depraved indifference" argument that they love to toss around on that show. Good ol' Jack wouldn't let anyone get away with this kind of nonsense. Where is our real life Jack McCoy?

As for the mental health of the mother. (Sigh) What is there to say?

She says herself, "I just longed for certain connections and attachments with another person that I really lacked, I believe, growing up.” When asked what she felt that she lacked, her answer was, "Feeling of self and identity.”

Okay, so she has one child, two children, three children.

Hmmmm...am I feeling the connections that I long for? Not yet? Okay, maybe more babies will help.

She has four children, five and six children.

Still not quite feeling that sense of self? Let's just go for one more baby. Maybe that will do it.


There are just so many things wrong with this. However, she is not the only person in the world to ever have made a decision to have children for reasons that could be considered less than healthy. People have children for crappy reasons all the time. She just went a little too far - no, a lot too far and now her derangement is out there for all to see.

I will say that she seems to be out of touch with reality. She says she wants to go back to school in the fall and that once she is done with her schooling, she will be able to afford her fourteen children. She just had eight severely premature babies and she thinks she will be able to go back to school in six months?

One of her children weighed 1 pound 8 ounces at birth. Woman, wake up! Lift up your left boob. Your left boob weighs more than your human child. Does that fact sink in at all? Does the reality of seeing your eight new babies hooked up to IV's and breathing tubes and feeding tubes and monitors and incubators give you even a subtle hint as to what is in store for you in the near future?


But then again, we do not know the whole story. Maybe she does have sufficient financial means and enough sustained support from committed family and friends to do what she says she wants to do. Maybe she is not delusional, but simply a high achiever with big dreams and the gumption and determination to make them happen! Maybe we are just being judgemental and negative. Maybe WE are the crazy ones!


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2 comments:

Bethany said...

Oh my God, Kathy, what am I going to DO with you? This post just made me laugh SO hard, the Jack McCoy part, with perfect accompanying pic and then the left boob thing especially. I love your writing. Why do I bother to blog when you are so brilliant and timely and perfect? Okay, we're not competing. Thank God. I love the way you think. Yeah, hello, identity problems, uh go to therapy lady, don't keep having more kids. So now THEY will need therapy because the mother was using them to find her sense of self and connection. Duh.

Susan said...

Don't get me started with this topic... the woman is delutional and you are correct... the odds are very high that several,, if not more of the babies will have special needs. That will keep people like me in a job.. but so not fair.. So many children to adopt... I despise these doctor's who play God and don't even think about the ethics of the situation. Ugghhhh!!!!!